Always Go For It

You want to know why many guys don’t have the sex lives that they want? Sure not having game, being more feminine than they should, worshiping women, and stuff like that plays a part. But ultimately it comes down to this one simple thing. They never go for it, they never approach a woman and show her that they have an interest in her. Despite false popular psychologies belief that women are good readers of people (hint: they aren’t) and automatically know when a guy wants them the truth is women are as oblivious as most men. And if a woman doesn’t know your interested she isn’t going to show you she is interested and that’s even if she is. Women don’t want to make the first move it makes them too vulnerable, that is the man’s job.

Let me ask you something when you go out to a bar or a place with many women and you are single and don’t have a rotating harem of women, how many women do you talk to and interact with? Hell how many do you make eye contact with or smile at? One, two, or if you’re like most men zero. How are you supposed to have the sex life you want if you never show your interest in a woman? You won’t. That’s like expecting to win or even place in a race without ever getting off the couch. Even the worst runner in the world who actually takes action will be ahead of the great runner who never gets off the couch. You have to play then game to win, life is not a spectator sport, and neither is having the relations you want with the opposite sex.

Don’t Be Coy

Unfortunately between social conditioning and bad “pickup” advice men have been told that its good to hide their interest from a woman and to never let her know that you have any desire for her. This comes from insecure men who confess their love and everlasting desire for a woman from the moment they meet her. They over do it and plus they don’t really feel those things and if they do then they have to work on their manhood and priorities before anything else. So naturally the advice was to do the opposite of that, never show your interest in a woman. That’s the problem with a lot of “pickup” advice, it comes form insecure nerds and is what worked for them but when done by a normal or especially an attractive man doesn’t make much sense.

If you’re an attractive man and never show women interest, you’re not going to get laid a lot. Because you are attractive you are going to intimidate women who already don’t want to make the first move. When you show your interest and desire for her however it allows her to express hers, plus she’ll get shocked/flattered/turned on like crazy that an attractive masculine man is showing interest in her. The aloof never show a woman any interest stuff is mostly crap when it comes to most situations. Obviously this doesn’t mean supplicate and kiss her feet, be a man but also show your manly desires. Don’t be coy, show her how you feel.

Insecurity

But won’t that make me beta? I heard that if you ever tell a woman anything positive she cheats on you and runs off with a guy who treats her like crap. Again this is advice that came from weak burned men who were getting to the next level. They went from total weak wimps to jerks, which admittedly is an improvement but not the final stage of the evolution. Have a backbone and show your interest and you won’t have to worry about this. This reminds me of men who say never to smile to women as it is a sign of submissiveness. What they mean is some dumb little boy “smile for mommy” smile which makes them look like children, a key tenet of game is smiling like a man at women.

So a lot of red pill or “pickup” advice comes from men or more accurately boys/males who were insecure and needy so adopted traits of the jerk and lo and behold women responded better. Because these men were actually acting more like men. Honestly treating a women like crap while having some balls will get you more women than worshiping women ever will but that is not the final or most effective stage by a long shot.

Alphas, Jerks, And Nice Guys

I may eventually do a post just on this topic but essentially what happens with much “pickup” advice is that they are beta men. Weak, women worshiping, and balless who get burned by women time and time again so adopt traits that are opposite of them. They adopt the traits of a jerk. So they end up hating women (which is never the answer), disregarding them, and treating them like dirt which admittedly is a step in the right direction. But they are still living for women and are still insecure and will suffer for that. Here on this site I do what’s best for men not women. And if being the jerk was best for men, that’s what I would advocate but it’s not being the alpha is. Now many think the alpha is a nicer version of the jerk, a step back towards beta but this is false.

The alpha is masculine and more masculine than the jerk as he doesn’t have insecurity issues or hate. He lives for himself and himself alone. He is the one that can successfully have a harem of young college girls, date a few beautiful models, or have a happy successful marriage with a healthy family. Like I said in The Primer the alpha is a man, fully and whole. He has the capacity to have any type of relationship with the majority of women he wants. He doesn’t have to have meaningless sex with low self-esteem girls who later accuse him or rape or revel in his abuse like the jerk. Rather he can have sex with lots of beautiful normal women or have one wife who loves and worships him. The alpha is a man. Be an alpha, the jerk is a weak watered down version of him. The beta even worse. The jerk is a step in the right direction but it’s still weak and insecure.

Summary

So go for it. You’ll be a step above you aloof jerk friends, you’ll have better game than them, be more of a man than them, and have sex with hotter and healthier women than them. Women are not the enemy. Your own weakness is the enemy. When you develop yourself you’ll naturally screen out bad women and weak men. Instead of constantly contesting with them because you are on the same level as them. Bitterness, insecurity, and weakness are not traits of a man. They are traits of a weak boy or a woman.

They have no place in a man’s life. When you see a woman you want always go for it. Show your interest in her. Make it clear that you want her. Be bold and forward and ballsy. Be a man…and the women will fall at your feet. Be straightforward about what you want from a woman, don’t play the coy little boy, be the confident forward man. Trust me not only is it the best for attracting women, more importantly it’s best for your life and your manhood. So ditch the beta mindset but don’t get stuck in the jerks but evolve to the man’s. And always go for it.

Also I should note that different peoples definitions of things may be different from mine. For example one person may use the term jerk where I use alpha yet mean the same thing. So when you see these terms out there they are not universal. For example my term for beta is many bloggers term for omega. So just understand that and keep it in mind when reading other sites.

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-Charles Sledge