At some point a man gets tired of meeting women through friends, circumstances, or family and decides to take matter into his own hands. However most men end up snagged on the right way to do this. First off there is no “right” away and as long as a man is taking action he is on the right path. Second off this is something that should be a straightforward and easy process not something that people write whole books about (though I’m sure some do).
Approaching a woman is not rocket science or hard. It will go against your social conditioning at first but after awhile you we become immune to it and have no hesitation when doing it. However there a couple of things to keep in mind that will make things go smoother and cut down on your learning time. Keep these few things in mind next time you see a pretty girl and approach her.
You’re The Man
You are the man. Don’t forget this. When you approach a woman do so as a man. Be forward, bold, and ballsy. Not crude or inappropriate but unapologetic and straightforward. Don’t hesitate or hew and haw. Take action and be direct. Don’t be coy. A woman knows why you approached her. While you don’t have to make a huge deal out of the fact that you are attracted to her, make sure that is known beyond just talking to her. You not relating to her as friend to friend, as gay to girl, or girl to girl. You are relating to her as man to woman which means their is sexuality in the mix.
Women want men. They are attracted to masculine confident men like you are attracted to women with round asses and perky tits. Don’t get it in your head that you are undesirable to women or that they don’t want to be approached by men because they do. They may test you at first but if you hold you ground and be a man. They will melt before you.
You’re Already More Than Enough
You are not approaching a goddess or a divine being you are approaching another human being. Another human being with insecurities and faults. You do not have to be perfect the fact that are taking action already makes you stand out from the majority of men who will never take action. They will just sit back and watch as opportunities and life pass them by. There is no such thing as being “good enough” for a woman, you are already more than good enough. You are already more than enough.
A man seeing an attractive woman and going up and talking to her is natural. It isn’t weird or wrong or misogynistic/sexist/evil/etc. It is normal and natural and anyone who thinks otherwise is the one with the problem not you. We do not live in a healthy or natural society don’t curb your life to fit in with what society wants. Doing what is right and what is good often goes against what society wants. What women want sure as hell goes against what society wants, that’s for sure.
Attitude
This is the attitude that you should have that the woman that you are approaching is lucky to be approached by you. This doesn’t mean you act like you are better than her especially if it is coming from a place of insecurity it will shine through and you will come across as a try hard. No, what I mean by this is that you are a man who appreciates her femininity and are man enough to initiate the interaction to see where it will lead. This type of man is rare and women appreciate it, unless they have issues and if they do they generally aren’t worth your time anyways. Note: Many women have issues so don’t be surprised at the weird reactions you may get. Hold the frame and be a man and things will turn out for the best.
You attitude or inside is always shining through. Your mindset is always shining through. That is why one guy can walk up and say something weird and corny to a girl and have her laughing and smiling. While another guy can walk up to a girl and say something nice yet get an eye roll or a brush off. Girls can pick up on your inner attitude and since the feminine is reactive in nature, it will react to it. Be genuine with girls. Genuine means being real about your desires and be unashamedly a man. Again doesn’t mean you have to be crude, just real.
Remember
- You’re the man, act like one
- You’re already good enough for every woman on this earth, never think otherwise
- You inner attitude is always shining through, be real
Remember these three things and you will save yourself a lot of time and frustration.
If you enjoyed this article you’ll also want to check out this great piece by Sebastian of Global Seducer.com “I Approached 10 Girls A Day For 3 Years“.
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-Charles Sledge
Good advice. It has helped me immensely to go somewhere the culture has not yet been ruined and where hypergamy works in my favor. My 19 yr old gf was reading the Bible last night. I was amazed girls like this still existed but then Latin culture hasn’t been administered the hemlock yet.
Sounds awesome man. I’ve actually never been out of the states yet. Once I get things together a little better as far as income goes I plan on traveling all over. From what I’ve heard Latin America is one of the best places to go.
i wonder if before civilization, in primitive times, when us humans lived in caves or were more ape-like, i wonder if the human mating dance or courtship ritual was slightly different than today, like i wonder if us human males literally had to fight or engage in battle with another male over females, just like how you see in other animals today, i wonder if we didn’t really approach them back then
It probably varied from culture to culture but I’m sure combat and perhaps kiling had something to do with it and no there was no approaching as we do it today back then.
oh ok, so the way it goes today, men approaching women, initiating conversations, asking them out, thats only like in terms of hundreds of years right?
just wondering what you recommend is the best way for me to research on this, on how human mating, interactions were hundreds or better yet, thousands of years ago, as in, where men didn’t approach women back then, in which combat and killing was involved in order to get with women