How To Create Sexual Tension With A Woman

This is a chapter from my book How To Get Girls: The Definitive Guide. Enjoy.

One of the most important things to have in turning women on and having lots of sex is the understanding of how to create sexual tension between you and a woman. Being able to create and escalate sexual tension with a woman is paramount in sleeping with women. Sexual tension is exactly what it sounds like that build up of sexual desire and energy that get released during sex. Men don’t need it as much as woman as men can see a woman with a nice body and instantly get turned on while women need to be worked up. Of course this process of working up can be done very quickly with a guy who knows what he is doing.

There are many different ways to create sexual tension, some more effective than others. What I am going to do here is lay out the most effective ways to create and build sexual tension with a woman. This is not a complicated process and is in fact a natural one. Remember sex and sexual relations are not complicated or hard, they are natural and once you get in touch with your natural masculinity come very easily. But first you must actively work against your social programming for it to come naturally. The first step is to be aware of what causes sexual tension and how to use it.

Eye Contact & Smile

Making eye contact and smiling at a woman is a very effective way of generating sexual tension. Of course it must be done in the right way. Have a goofy boy smile is not going to create sexual tension while having a man’s smile is. You know when a kid smiles teeth showing and like his cheeks are going to swallow his eyes? That’s not exactly the smile we are going for. What we want is a smirk. You can still smile fully just keep in mind you’re not doing a cheesy smile for the family portrait rather a masculine smile to a woman.

Eye contact is incredibly powerful. In business, in life, in relations of any kind, and especially in sexual relations with women. When you look a woman in the eyes unashamedly and confidently (especially with a smirk on your face) she is going to respond to this in a good way. There will be sexual tension created between you two. You should try making eye contact with every woman you meet and with men in business settings. Only in business settings as locking eyes with a man in public is a sigh of dominance which may cause a fight. Which could also be one reason while women respond so strongly to it.

Touch

When I say touch I don’t mean full on groping. No I mean little touches here and there, then gradually progress. A touch on the lower back, arm, or shoulder. Moving a piece of her hair out of the way or just anything really. A lingering touch builds even more tension. That thing with touch it you want to calibrate it and escalate slowly at first. As you progress you will naturally know how and when to touch but for starters do it lightly and then work from there. Women love being touched, especially by a confident masculine man.

I would say touch is the potential strongest builder of sexual tension. If you could choose just one thing to give you the most bang for your buck this would be it. However utilize all methods as they all work and work even better together. So start off touching women lightly and here and there then progress once you learn to calibrate and read. When it doubt, always go for it. If you are going to mess up, mess up on the side of aggression rather than timidity. Timidity has no place in a man’s life.

Flirting/Teasing

This works incredibly well with certain girls. While some girls (especially more traditional/feminine ones in my experience) respond better to a masculine direct approach many women (especially masculinized Western women) respond better to getting their chops busted and being teased. While both touch, making eye contact, and smiling can all be considered flirting what I mean here is verbal flirting. Which is the least effective of all the methods yet still works especially for girls who play hard to get or are into playing games.

For girls who want to play games teasing and giving them backhanded compliments is the way to go. Girls who respond to this tend to respond strongly to this. Girls who like to tease and as I said play hard to get respond real well to this. Works well with girls who think their better than everyone as well. Popping their bubble is going to throw them and throw them in a good way. I prefer girls who don’t play games but its always good to know how to bang a variety. Even if you prefer deer sometimes it’s good to know how to hunt other animals as well.

Sexual Tension

One thing to keep in mind with all this is that as a man you should always be relating to women as a man. Not as a asexual person but as a man. She is a woman and you are a man. Meaning there are dynamics there that will always be in place. Never relate to a woman of any kind as anything other than a man. Especially women that you want to have sexual relations with. So many men in today’s world neuter themselves to get close to women not realizing how that will backfire on them. As they will be seen as a gelded plaything and not as a man.

All of the above is predicated on you being a man and relating to women as a man. You were created to be a man and when you neuter yourself for whatever reason you are spitting in the face of God and yourself. Have respect for yourself and always be a man. Remember there is no competition for masculine men and there is no honor for feminine men. Embrace and be who you were created to be, fully and completely a man.

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-Charles Sledge