There are certain things that are always good to keep in mind when it comes to sleeping with the women you want. Certain tenets of game that once they are firmly cemented in your mind will help your tremendously in developing the love life that you want and desire. The tenets are multiple but the more that you grasp the better off you will be. You can get laid without grasping any of them as getting laid is easy but the more you grasp the easier it becomes.
The basics of game are required knowledge for any man. Every man at some point in his life is going to want to have sex with lots of women and if he never has the ability to he will always be unsatisfied. I’m not saying that a man needs to or even should sleep with a lot of women simply that as a man there is a stage where he will want to know at least know he has the capacity to sleep with the women he wants. Once he does he can generally move on to other stages of his life. However most men never get out of this stage as they never learn game and inter-gender dynamics
Game Tenet #1 - Be Unapologetic About Your Sexual Desire
You know that a key part of being a man is being unapologetic but do you understand how that relates to having sex with the women that you want? It relates in variety of ways but the way that I want you to understand is this. A man should be unapologetic about his sexuality and his sexual desire. A man having a natural desire for a man is considered wrong in our society and men learn to be ashamed of their sexuality. Women who flaunt it are empowered, sodomites and other perverse forms of sex are hailed as brave. But be a man desiring a woman and that will get you in trouble.
Learn to be proud of your desire for a woman. Embrace it and show it to others. Don’t hide it or be ashamed of it. Both conservative and liberal or however you want to divide people believe that women’s sexuality is something that is good while men’s is bad. To conservatives men are brutes who prey on pure innocent women and to liberals men are evil who express their sexuality (unless it’s perverted) and women are empowered the more sexual they are. Don’t listen to either one of them, they both have unhealthy unnatural viewpoints that are not based in nature or logic. Be unapologetic about your sexual desire for women. Show it.
Game Tenet #2 - Be Forward With Your Intentions
There has been a debate on whether it is better to be direct with a woman about wanting her or whether to be indirect. Direct is better. Direct is more masculine and more effective. When you have sexual desire for a woman show that to her. I’m not saying walk up to a woman and say “Hey I want to bang you” although sometimes that works. I mean show that you are relating to her in a sexual way as man to woman. That this is a platonic conversation but one with sexual undertones. Don’t be afraid to lose women as the ones you lose when you show your sexual intent were just going to waste your time anyways.
There is an argument that some girls need to be warmed up so if you go direct and scare them away so to speak you won’t get them when you could have if you warmed her up first. I understand the logic behind this argument as well as how it can work sometimes but I still would caution you to be direct. Here’s why. While it’s true that yes you can scare some women off by being forward that you might have otherwise gotten (hence the importance of calibrating and reading women’s cues) but for every one that could have been warmed up there are eight that are just wasting your time. Plus it’s easier to just go for the ones that are already into it. They will be more receptive and more fun anyways. Be forward with woman about your intentions, don’t hide them or try to manipulate.
Summary
So two things to keep in mind when it comes to game. Be unapologetic about your sexual desires for a woman. Women want to be wanted, they desire to be desired. Hiding this from them is just cruel. Of course always calibrate but still show the desire. Don’t be ashamed of it or try to hide it. Be unapologetic about what you want from a woman. It is naturally and healthy to desire women, don’t be ashamed of it.
The second tenet to keep in mind is to make the interaction a sexual one. Which simply means make it so it isn’t a platonic interaction. Show your intentions and desires. Again this doesn’t necessary mean “I want to bang you” but rather it’s communicated through eye contact, body language, etc. You are relating to her as a man with sexual desires to a woman with sexual needs. Not as two friends, not as two people, but as man to woman. Turn the interaction sexual. You’re not talking to her to learn about what she’s buying, or her opinions on something, or God forbid something as feminine as what to wear. You talking to her to see if she is sexually worthy of you and will be fun and compatible with you. Be forward with your sexual desires.
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-Charles Sledge
