Getting the behavior that you want is much easier than most would have you believe. Society seems to think that people are set in their ways and that people are not changeable. When the fact of the matter people are being changed and conditioned everyday. When this is done by the government, media, corporations, etc. it is done for purposes that are not in our best interest but rather in the best interest of the entity who is doing the conditioning. This can be done by you as well with those around you.
When most think of conditioning they have mostly negative associations with it. But conditioning can be a good thing as well. A young boy who goes through Parris Island comes out a Marine because of the conditioning he undergoes there. A undisciplined brat through conditioning can one day become a disciplined adult. A unruly dog can become a trusted friend. And so on and so forth. Going to the gym everyday is conditioning yourself to get in shape.
Conditioning is not good or bad it simply is. It’s how you use it that can make it good or bad or put more accurately positive or negative. If you don’t condition yourself and those under your care then the media, government, schools, and other evils of our time will be more than happy to. One of the most important aspects of your life in which conditioning is important is in your relations to women.
Setting The Frame
Before we get into conditioning there is something that I want to address and that is setting the frame. While conditioning is very powerful it’s helps tremendously to have set a healthy frame beforehand. So if you’re a male who’s wife walks all over him and is bitchy and has short hair then it’s going to be harder to condition her into what you want than if you were a man who put her in her place from the beginning. Honestly sometimes conditioning isn’t worth it and you’d be better off moving on.
But for those that show potential conditioning can be worth it and if you’re stuck in a situation conditioning can be used to get you out of it even if a unhealthy frame was set before (for example the woman having headship of the relationship). No matter your situation conditioning can be used to improve it.
I also want to point at that while conditioning sounds like a psychological term (it is) it is also something that men do naturally. They naturally reward behavior that they find pleasing and punish behavior that they don’t. To have a successful relationship you have to discipline the woman you are with. Just like a child who is not disciplined will be rotten, the same holds true for women.
Conditioning
There are things women crave from men (especially the most dominant man in her life, often her husband). Attention ,affection, sex, etc. These are used as rewards for woman. The place where most guys go wrong is there wife or whatever will do something he doesn’t like but he’ll give in to her, effectively rewarding her behavior of displeasing him. Then the cycle goes around again and again and it becomes a habit. She does what she wants, he complains, but nothing comes of it. There are no hard and fast consequences.
Meanwhile when a woman who displeases a man and he let’s her know. More through actions than words as action speak louder than words she gets it. He doesn’t show her attention or affection. Now if he’s a weak beta then she’s not going to care and going to go get her fill from whoever the most dominant man is in her life but if you are that man she is going to care and she is going to care deeply about how you feel. And if she doesn’t it may be time to move on.
For those of you stuck in situations where a bad frame was established you can use conditioning too. But you must do it while also becoming a more dominant man everyday for it to have any effect. When she realizes that you are becoming more and more attractive and dominant she will start to care about what you think and say. The frame becomes healthier and healthier as the woman submits to the man more and more.
Summary
So when your woman is submissive and feminine you reward her with attention and affection. When she shows care and kindness towards you then you reward her. When she makes an effort for you, making a special meal you like, dressing up for you, just doing things to please you then you reward her. However you must also be ready and willing to withdraw those things should she displease you.
When she is bitchy you punish her. When she displeases you then you pull back the attention and affection. And if ever disrespects you it might just be best to walk out on her and find a new woman. Never tolerate disrespect, make sure she understands how that is never acceptable. This is all predicated on being the most dominant man in her life or otherwise she won’t care. To put it simply men want quantity of women while women want quality of man.
Also I should note this isn’t done to manipulate or mess with her, it’s done from a place of you don’t tolerate bad behavior from anyone including her. Not from I’m angry so I’ll manipulate her. It isn’t about manipulation it’s about setting boundaries and sticking to them. To do this in order for a good healthy relationship to form.
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-Charles Sledge
