Now as a man I have to say that it isn’t in your best interest going out looking for a woman to have a relationship with. You’re best off focusing on yourself and using women for fun. However should you find a woman that you genuinely click with and want to spend time with (and it’s not the first girl you’ve interacted with) then there are some things to keep in mind in regards to having a successful long term relationship with that girl. Note the key word there, successful.
Now like I said before never be anxious to settle down with a girl. That is the wrong mindset to have and is counterproductive to having a successful long term relationship. As a man in regards to women your focus should be having fun and gaining experience. Sorry but if you’ve only interacted with ten women you have no idea if a woman is worth having a long term relationship with, much less something even more serious like marrying. You need reference experiences. If all you’ve had your entire life is spoiled eggs anything even low quality food is going to taste better to you. You need reference experience.
Now for some of you you’re thinking “I don’t want to go out and bang thirty girls before I can think about settling down” and you don’t have to. While there is nothing wrong with that route and it beats the hell out of the first girl who likes me route there are other options. Date lots of girls, go out with them, interact with them, interact man and woman to them. This doesn’t have to mean sex (although that is one way) even making out or flirting or whatever with them. Get experience with women before deciding to settle for one.
Be A Man
This could be said of most things in life. For them to be successful for you you must be a man. She must look up to you. Remember women want men to look up to and worship not boys they must take care of. If you’re not the man and not in control of the relationship she will lose respect for you which will lead to her losing attraction to you which will lead to her (depending on what type of girl she is) either dumping you or cheating on you. With honestly in today’s world and culture the latter being more common than the former.
You must be the head of the relationship. Put her in her place. Don’t let her walk all over you. Just because you are now “exclusive” (as if that meant anything) doesn’t mean you can stop being the man or being the leader. The man is always the leader. In relationships where the man is not either the woman (and often the man) is miserable and seeks an escape. Again either through dumping or cheating.
Have The Sexes View Commitment
A man can pledge himself to something (think brotherhood, country, gang, etc.) and mean it. Through think and thin he can stand by his pledge and will die to defend it. This isn’t all men (especially nowadays) or even most men simply something that men have the capacity to do. Women don’t have this. I know it sounds weird that men can commit and women can’t but it’s the truth. Women only commit when it is in their benefit and they feel like it. A man can mean it when he says he commits to something a woman cannot.
Women in general commit to something when it is convenient and in their favor. They say “I do” because it’s the best option for them at that moment. Now at first glance this may seem like it makes a faithful commitment from a woman impossible but that is not the case. A man who as said above is a man can keep the commitment of a woman forever because it is always in her benefit to be with him. As a man if a woman loses her attraction for you the relationship will follow.
A man will put up with a fat nagging wife for years because he has a sense of duty. A woman will leave or cheat after a month when she is with a man she has lost attraction for. Women have no sense of duty. This isn’t to say women or evil or this or that, it just is. Again when she is attracted to you because you are a man this doesn’t matter. Just before you commit be aware of this so that you will have a realistic expectation of how relationships work.
Successful Long Term Relationship
So to have a successful long term relationship you must be the man and you must understand that a woman does not have a sense of duty. But that is not all. As the title says you must be here king. She must be submissive to you and want to please and serve you. You must have dominance over her. All the basic tenets of game apply doubly to successful long term relationships. You must still control the frame of where you want the relationship to go, you must still lead, you must care less about the outcome of the relationship than her, she must be more invested than you.
As soon as the power structure changes the relationship is doomed. When the man starts pursuing the woman, when the man starts obeying the woman, when the man becomes submissive to the woman and tries to please her the relationship is heading towards its inevitable end. When the natural order of woman serving man is violated the relationship will dissipate. She must love, worship, and serve you. Don’t get me wrong there will be times when she will be mad at you, dislike you, and etc but she must always respect you. As long as that is there the relationship will be there.
When I say respect I mean true dominant masculine respect. Not “I respect you for being so sensitive” or “I respect that you have the right to disagree with me like our therapist said” or “I respect that you let me get gang banged by other men and still support me”. But real respect which is seldom or never said but it is felt and it is known. That is what matters. Maintain the frame to what you wish it to be, be her king, and she your loving devotee.
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-Charles Sledge
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