Why The Man Must Lead The Interaction

The man is the leader. Without the man as the leader things break down. Nations, relationships, even interactions. How many guys sit around waiting for the woman to make the move, direct the conversation, or take the lead? These are all men’s jobs. Men were made to lead and women love a man who leads as a man who leads is being a man and fulfilling his natural role. Something that is getting rarer and rarer unfortunately.

When a man interacts with a woman that he intends of having some sort of sexual interaction with he is the one that needs to direct and lead the interaction to that end goal, should the woman also be up for it. And if she isn’t he moves on and finds a woman who is, as a man values his time. Even if a woman has a strong desire for a man she is very rarely going to take matters into her own hands as it is the man’s job to lead the interaction. In the rare occasion that a woman does she will hate it and probably lose attraction for the guy as he is forcing her into the masculine role, something no woman wants to be.

You’re The Man, She’s The Woman

You’re the man and she’s the woman. Sounds simple and that’s because it is. It can be easy to forget that sometimes as we live in a society that drums into our head the man and women are the same or that women should be masculine and men feminine. Pretty much anything as long as it isn’t the right and natural order. If it doesn’t work their fine with it, if it does then it’s evil and must be stopped. But it doesn’t matter what society thinks, says, or does. You’re a man remember and as a man you have an independent mind to do your own thing and walk your own path.

Men who remember they are men and embrace their masculinity are in short supply. However for those who are this way they are highly desired by woman and respected by the other few men. Treat her like a woman and conduct yourself as a man. You cannot sit around and wait as a man you have to take action. Man is the active force while women are the world are the reactive force. Men take the initiative, or nothing gets done. When a man wants something done he goes out and does it. He doesn’t wait on others or for permission. He takes action to create what he wants. Whether a business that makes money, time with his kids, or sex with a gorgeous woman. The man must act upon the world and others.

The Active Force

You as the man must be the active force. You must have a goal for the interaction and then take the interaction towards that goal. You can’t just go up to a woman and expect her to take the lead and direct things where they are supposed to go. You are the man if you don’t take the lead, the interaction is going to stall out or crash. You are the driver, she is the passenger. If she doesn’t have the same destination as you in mind then find someone who does but regardless you are the driver. She isn’t going to drive you to where you want even if she wants it too.

Imagine you are piloting a plane. Suddenly you turn to a passenger in the front row get up and hand the controls to them (assuming that was possible). What is going to be the end goal of that scenario? Is the plane going to make it too it’s destination? No, its going to stall and then crash. All because the pilot wasn’t piloting but tried to off that responsibility onto someone else who didn’t want it and doesn’t have the capacity for it. So the destination is never going to be reached. Now imagine if the pilot complained how passengers suck at taking the plane where it’s supposed to go? It’d be ridiculous it’s just as ridiculous when men want women to take the lead and direct the interaction where they want it to go.

Summary

So this is what I want you to take away from this. You are the man so therefore you must take the lead and direct the interaction to where you want it to go. You must make all the moves, take all the initiatives, and do all the escalation. You can’t expect women to do any of these things for you. Man is the active force and women the reactive. You have to take the lead and take the interaction where you want it to go.

Remember you are the pilot of the plane. It only gets to it’s destination if you take it there. This responsibility cannot be shirked or given to others. It can only be embraced. You were born man and therefore you must lead with woman. It’s as simple as that. Once you accept this and don’t fight against it like the Feminist and MRA do you’ll see that it’s better this way. Be the man and lead the interaction to where you want it to go.

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-Charles Sledge