Despite there being a difference between having a successful long term relationship and sleeping with a lot of women there are many overlaps and similarities between the two. While things certainly change in a long term relationship. Being too aloof can backfire and things of that nature. That doesn’t change the fundamental aspects of inter-gender relations. Just because a ring is put on a woman’s finger (even a good woman’s finger) does not mean that her nature has changed at all. She is still a woman and everything that applies to attracting women when single still applies to keeping a marriage successful.
Namely if you become weak she’ll seek strength generally in the arms (and other body parts) of another man. Marriage isn’t a place where you can let your guard down and become soft because you think that all the work is over. That’s not how it works. Your wife is a woman and will always be one. You still need to be a strong, attractive, and masculine man for things to work out. Just like you would with a friend with benefit type setup. Now that a ring is on your woman’s finger does not mean everything is good and going to work out.
Human Nature
Human nature and the biological reasons for human nature never go away. Just because you get married doesn’t mean you won’t want other women or that if you get weak and unattractive that your woman won’t use whatever she has left to attract a guy who isn’t, even if it’s only for one night. There is never a time when you can get weak, complacent, or wimpy. You must always be a man from the day you hit puberty to the day that they lay you in the grave. Your wife is not your mother and males who try to make their wives their mothers end up in trouble.
Either in sexless, loveless marriages or getting divorced raped after finding her cheating with a stronger man. So while yes making a long term relationship work and last is a bit different from being a bachelor with a rotating harem the basis of being a strong masculine man is still there. That never goes away and never will. Your success in marriage is still mainly predicated at that. Some wives have more tolerance for weakness then others but all will eventually leave at some point or another.
Stay Sharp
This isn’t to scare you or make you paranoid. Simply to say that you should always stay sharp and keep yourself in good working order. The best way to know if you’re doing it right is if other women still hit on you and especially if you wives friends want to sleep with you. Not that they come right out and say this of course but that they get giddy around you. I just see so many males who get married and then sit back thinking that everything is okay only to end up with a rude awakening. Even if you do all of the pre-marriage steps right.
Such as choosing a woman who has the traits you want, doesn’t have past partners, and has a good relationship with her father. Even then things won’t work out if you become unattractive and weak. This is also why it’s so important for men to make a mission and goal the focus on their life never a woman. A woman at best is a nice compliment to a man’s life not the focus of it. Many thought I was just referring to being single but the same thing applies when you are married as well.
Pretend Nothing Changed
Still work on yourself like you are single and on the prowl. Work on yourself as if you were a stranger courting your wife everyday. To be that strong and masculine that she just gets all wrapped up in you and can’t control herself when you’re around. Obviously this won’t be every day but you get the point. You still have to be her king, her hero, her fantasy. You still have to be able to screw other women should you need to. If she thinks she’s your only option she’ll lose all interest in you and leave you.
This is another reason while putting in the work before getting married is important. Yet even if you find yourself in a marriage where you have been dropping the ball you can generally still fix things before it’s too late. Always remember putting a ring on a woman’s finger doesn’t change her nature. For most women (who you wouldn’t marry anyways) it literally means nothing. They’ll still screw other guys even on the night before the wedding. If you follow what I’ve lain out you won’t end up with one of those girls but the point is to remember her nature doesn’t change just because she has a ring on.
Summary
No matter what you’re doing in life and what stage you are in single and having fun, single and ready for a family, dating, engaged, married, divorced, whatever you still have to be a strong and masculine man for success in life. Nothing negates this and nothing ever will. That is why this should be your focus never a woman, even if she’s a great wife. Be a strong masculine attractive man and you’ll have few problems. Always keep yourself as if you were single.
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-Charles Sledge
