Not every women is marriageable, if anything most women are not marriage material. This is a fact. At least in the Western world. Who knows one day things may change but for now you need to keep your wits about you whenever looking to get into a long term relationship with a woman. Many would suggest simply going to find another women for a different country but many want to marry a girl of their own race and culture, and I don’t blame them. Plus most aren’t looking to run away to the third world but would rather stay where they are. As I’ve said before despite what bitter males will say there are still marriageable women in any place.
But you have to know what to look for. Not only do you have to know what to look for but you have to be the right man to attract a woman worth marrying. Which is going to require hard work. It’s going to require that you work hard on yourself, it’s going to require that you work hard on screening women and understanding how to separate them, and then it’s going to take hard work for a successful marriage. However hard work should never scare or daunt you as all good things require hard work. A good fulfilling life is only acquired through study followed by hard work and lots of action. And that’s regardless of what your definition of the good life. Now for three more ways to screen for a woman who will make a good wife.
Character
Character is what is going to keep a marriage going long and strong, it’s the most important factor. And truth be told a woman of character is no easy task. The best way to determine a woman’s character is by how she treats others. Is she kind and supportive of others or does she tear them down. Does she watch out for others are seem to have a sweet disposition or does she constantly trample over others and look out for herself. Is she selfish? Does she put herself first even if it hurts others?
Does she treat people who can do her no favors with kindness or like annoyances? Does she take care of her family or see them as an annoying burden? This isn’t to say that she can’t be frustrated with them from time to time but overall how does she see them. Is she caring, kind, and sweet to all? Or is she rude to those she deems below her and googly eyed and flirty with those above (even if it’s you she’s googly eyed for). The biggest indicator is how she treats those who can do her no good. Watch for this.
Where Do Her Priorities Lie?
What is her top priority and where does she see herself in life? Is it to climb the corporate ladder? “Explore” the world and such? Or is it to have a nice home and a family? If it’s career or “exploration” then she’s not marriage material plain and simple. Family should be her number one priority and where she sees herself down the road. Anything else and she isn’t worth your time. If she wants to “wait” and “have fun” first or things like that those are red flags. Not saying she has to want you to get her pregnant the first day you meet but rather that family should take priority over her career and life ambitions.
She should be family minded. When she talks about being a wife and having a family one day her eyes and disposition should light up. She might not mind working a job but it’s for the bigger goal of having a family and a husband to love. If she chooses career over family or wants to delay having a family or sees family as something “below her” then hit it and quit it or don’t both with it in the first place. Women who are not family and marriage minded are not marriage material plain and simple. Another thing to be cautious of is if she doesn’t like kids, a red flag if there ever was one.
Where Does She Live?
Now first off I want to point out with this one is that this is just something that averages out to be better. Girls who live in rural areas tend to be more family minded and better marriage material then girls in urban areas. Not with that being said obviously their are plenty of loose women in the country and girls who are worth marrying in the city it’s just when you break down the likelihood of finding a woman worth marrying you’re much more likely to find her in a small town then you are a big city. In general rural girls are going to make better wives then urban girls.
Girls who want to go to the city are rarely family oriented. Generally girls want to go to the city because they are looking to make the most of a career or they want to party and get banged a lot. Or a combination of both, either way they don’t make for marriage material. The city is fun and a great place to find girls for just that fun, but when it comes time to settle down girls who are attracted to the city and what it has to offer aren’t the right choice. With that being said many rural girls just never got a chance to go to the city but have the same mindset. Always keep your eyes open.
Summary
Like I’ve said the woman you choose as your wife is going to be one of the biggest life decisions that you’ll make. This is something that you need to really know what you’re getting into and how to screen for the right girl. Remember you’re much better off single then you are with the wrong woman, even if you’re a marriage minded man and don’t want to play the field any more. It doesn’t matter rushing into it will get you killed. Be wise and take your time. There are women worth marrying out there but like with anything else in life you have to know what you are doing to get the results that you want. Find the right girl for marriage is no different.
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-Charles Sledge
