I’ve talked about having high personal standards before and how a man should never settle. And I stand by those assertions however after talking with some friends and getting some questions I have come to the conclusion that there is one major exception to this and it is only temporary. A man must have self-respect for himself and for the most part a man accepts nothing but the best. However not all of us are at that level yet and that is fine. Some of us are still early in the journey.
There is nothing wrong with this as the only way to fail is to never take the journey in the first place. However for those who are not that far on the journey having incredibly high standards may actually be limiting them. A man does what he wants to fulfill his needs regardless of what others think, say, or do. This is something we can agree on. A man must first walk before he can run. While running is the ultimate goal is isn’t right to dock a man because he is walking as long as his ultimate goal is running. Which brings me to my point.
The Only Time It Is Okay To Lower Your Standards.
A man should have high standards and that is all well and good however those that are not at that level yet may be hurting themselves by having such high standards. I recently was asked about lowering one’s standards to get out of a dry spell. At first I thought of course not, just bang a hot woman, but I think that was a unfair response. Instead for those early in the journey banging a woman, any woman can be just what is needed to get the ball rolling.
Banging an not that attractive woman is better than not having sex. While this should be at best a temporary fix to get you on your feet never the less it may be needed. I’ve seen guys who have crazy high standards and yet haven’t gotten laid in a month. In this instance the smartest thing to do is lower your standards to get the ball rolling again. Bad sex in this case is better than no sex as long as the end goal is to have sex with the woman you want.
It you haven’t touched a woman in a month and an older or not so attractive woman obviously wants you then I say go for it. Don’t make it a habit but use it as kindling to get your fire going again. Again this isn’t to become a habit but rather used as a temporary fix, a jump start if you will. Nothing more and nothing less. It is used to get you going and back on your feet. Stick to your high standards once you are further on the path and have things going how you want.
How To Break A Dry Spell
If you haven’t gotten laid in a month its time to lower your standards. Usually I’d be one hundred percent against this but I’ve seen men who need this. If this is your situation you need to do something ASAP. Sex is a need just like food or water. Okay not exactly like food or water but it’s definitely up there. And your hand and porn will never fulfill you. Banging less than perfect girls is a place we all have to go through at one point or another. It’s of course not the end goal but may be part of the path to getting there.
Who cares what you friends think, this about you fulfilling your need. If they give you shit about it then a lot of them are probably in the same boat yet too pussy to do anything about it. If you’re having a dry spell you owe it to yourself to do something about it. You need to place your needs above the opinions of others. If you friends made fun of you for being hungry and eating something that wasn’t perfectly cooked and prepared would you care? No, of course don’t make a habit of it but were talking about a quick fix here, not a life plan.
You’ve heard the expression beggars can’t be choosers and it applies here. If you’re not getting laid you have no room to be turning girls down at this point in your life. You need to get out there and get action. This applies doubly if you are a virgin. Focus on getting laid, not necessarily with who but just getting laid. It doesn’t matter if she isn’t your dream girl at this point, just get some damn action.
Summary
If you’re not getting laid refusing to lower your standards is doing nothing but hurting you. This going to be done short term but the long term effects are going to be very beneficial. There is no shame in having a dry spell so long as you take action to correct it and don’t just sit around clinging to high standards that are obviously not doing you any good (at least at this moment in time, down the road this will change). Maybe she’s a little older, maybe she’s a little plain looking this doesn’t matter if you’re not already getting laid a lot.
And honestly if you’ve been drinking and it’s in the dark how much of a difference is it going to make? Again this shouldn’t become a habit but you get what I’m saying. Put your ego aside for one damn minute so that you can fulfill your needs. That’s right this often comes down to an ego issue more than anything. You have to let go of your ego because right now it’s hurting you and holding you back. Read this article by Chris from Good Looking Loser. Don’t let your ego prevent you from living life to it’s fullest.
If you have any questions you would like to see answered in a future post send them to me at charlessledge001 (at) gmail (dot) com. If you found value in this post then I would encourage you to share this site with someone who may need it as well as check out my books here. I appreciate it.
-Charles Sledge
