Alright so you’re not getting the attention that you want from the ladies. You’ve followed all the mainstream advice you treat women with respect, dote on them, buy them flowers, and basically treat them like the goddesses they claim themselves to be. And so far all you have to show for it is blue balls and a life long sentence to the friend zone. Hey look man I’m not blaming you. Our society, culture, media, and even parents pretty much guarantee that a male ends up weak and desperate.
But that doesn’t have to be you anymore. You can attract the women that you want and most likely after following the guidelines in this article be well ahead of your friends and anyone else you know. Even that guy who is the most successful with women that you know. You can surpass him if you really dig down and get to it. But remember nothing is going to change without taking action. You have to take action that is what is going to change you and lead you to new levels of growth. Alright now how to be an attractive man.
Your Looks
Let’s start with your looks. While women don’t put nearly as much importance on looks that men do they still matter and give you a boost when your confidence and masculinity are lagging. So you want to make sure that you are maximizing your looks. You want to make sure that you are dressing nice and that your clothes fit. No ratty T-shirts and worn out gym shoes. You want a polo at least and a pair of nice dark jeans that fit. Also get some leather shoes or nice looking gym shoes. The point here is to stand out and show that you put effort into yourself.
Also begin a fitness routine of some kind. Work on your diet. Cut out sugary food and foods high in carbohydrates. This will be a good start. Switch from beer to liquor. Eat more meat and greens. So now that we have your style and fitness covered there is something else I want to warn you of. Don’t get sloppily drunk. Not only is it bad for you but makes you very unattractive, at this stage have a few drinks but nothing more.
Your Masculine Edge & Mindset
Alright here is where things really start to matter. Masculinity is what attracts women, like magnets attract each other. The more masculine a guy is the more a woman is going to want him. You need to start cultivating your masculine edge. If you’re not hanging out with a group of guys who are bettering you then you need to start ASAP. Seek out a mentor if you must, just someone who is going to help you develop your masculinity. You want to become stronger, bolder, and better. Doing masculine things will help with this as well.
Also you probably have many bad beliefs put into you by society. You have to start reprogramming your belies so that they are much healthier. Get rid of beliefs like you’re not good enough for women, that women are above you, or that women only want guys who are X (X being something you don’t have). Use affirmations to tell yourself you are more than enough for any women and that women are attracted to you. Like you fitness routine this is something that you should keep at daily.
Understanding Women
You also need to start having a basic understanding of women. First know that women aren’t these mystical creatures that cannot be understood. Their biological creatures just like you and me and every single last one of their behavior stems from biological programming. Women like sex, have dirty thoughts, cheat, lie, and steal just like anyone else. You have to knock them off the pedestal that society has convinced you to put them on. A woman will have a one night stand, get screwed in the bathroom, or cheat or her husband while he’s out as long as her reputation is kept in tact.
Also understand that women are going to shit test you to see if you’re a worthy male (this stems from biology). She’s going to pretend like she doesn’t like you or challenge you to see if you have the balls to stand up to her. When you do she becomes attracted to you. I know this seems weird at first but you’ll get used to it. The more you submit to a woman the less she wants to have sex with you is a simple way of putting it. Be a man who stands his ground and has his own path.
Summary
This is meant to give you a head start on the path to becoming an attractive man. Honestly this is a topic that an entire book could be written about. And luckily for you I wrote the book. Check out The Primer if you want to know more. But this article should be enough to get you off the ground and started down the right path. You have to keep at it, this isn’t something you can do for a little bit then give up. You have to take it day by day and keep working. Do that and the results are guaranteed to come.
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-Charles Sledge
