Now I’m going to go ahead and tell you what this article is not. This article is not about going around being a jerk to everyone that’s a real good way to live a miserable life and get your head kicked in. No, that is not what I mean by unrepentant asshole. This about the macho douche bag whose mindset in still in his high school days (read most of the male population unfortunately). No, this is not what this article is about. And if that is what you go out and do you will rightfully be miserable and get your head kicked in.
Now that that’s out of the way we can get started. One of the major traits of the bad boy is that he is unaffected by the world around him. He is a man of action not reaction. What I mean by unrepentant asshole is that the bad boy has absolutely no problem putting someone in their place should the time call for it. They have no problem with confrontation and do not shy away from it. They don’t seek it out like the low self-esteem loudmouth but neither do they shy away from it like a pussy. They face it head on staring it straight in the eye.
The Unrepentant Asshole
When called for a bad boy has no problem telling someone how he feels. If someone crosses the line he addresses it. It doesn’t matter who this person is or what they do, the bad boy addresses disrespect. It could be a bitchy woman trying to shake him, it could be some asshole trying to show off in front of his friends, or it could be his boss trying to pull a power move to compensate for being a pussy. It doesn’t matter the bad boy addresses it and is an unrepentant asshole when the situation calls for it. He doesn’t apologize for it as he knows being unrepentant is a key trait of masculinity and being a bad boy.
To be an unrepentant asshole requires some skills. Which means that being a good bad boy that women crave requires some skills. Namely how to fight to deal with the inevitably try-hards that plague a society where most males are too scared to address shit heads as well as to defend himself and those he cares about. How to deal with a woman with an inflated ego who tries to emasculate him. As well as when to ignore something and when to address it. He doesn’t let others get to him as he is in control of himself and therefore his world.
But when the time comes to lay down the law, he does it and does it unapologetically. It may be tearing someone a new one or it may be a quick look that conveys more than words ever can. It doesn’t matter the point is he doesn’t mind being the unrepentant asshole. He doesn’t mind people saying his “mean” or “an asshole” if he is doing the right thing and living by his standards. He doesn’t apologize for addressing disrespect or bad behavior. He is an unrepentant asshole when called for.
Practical Tips To Developing Your Inner Asshole
First things first like mentioned elsewhere stop apologizing so damn much. If you’re apologizing more than once a week your apologizing too much. Cut it out. Learn the skills so that when confrontation comes (as it inevitably does if you’re a man) your will be ready to deal with it. Like mentioned before being a good bad boy is essentially being a man. And a man is prepared to deal with the realities of the world which include violence and disrespect. You have to be prepared to deal with this. To be able to protect yourself (and your family/friends/women your with) as well as so you can handle whatever life throws at you.
Many men live in this bubble where they think they don’t need to develop these skills and can become weak males instead of men. But this isn’t true. The call to manhood is not one can shirk just because they live in the suburbs. And if one does it always ends in disaster. Either his wife cheating, his family being hurt, or some other unfortunate event. The point is the skills required to be a man apply to all and are something you need to develop now and continue developing.
Learn how to fight. Learn how to handle women. And get the right mindset. Look at The Primer for an entire layout to develop your manhood. Having these underlying skills allows you walk around the world without fear and without inhibition. You will be able to face the world with confidence and will not shy away from confrontation. You will be able to live life fully and not be afraid of what’s around every corner. You will be free to be the asshole that men are required to be at times and not apologize for that.
Summary
A man knows that at times he has to be an unrepentant asshole and has no problems doing so. Part of being a good bad boy is knowing when to put your foot down and draw the line in the sand. Knowing when to call someone out on their bullshit or bad behavior. To not be pushed around or let others push around those that you care about. To be a active force in this world instead of a reactive force. To be a man.
Learning the underlying skills is a fundamental part of being a good bad boy and cultivating your inner asshole. Without those skills you will not have the confidence to back up what you say. You will be like the little dog barking at the big dog compared to with the skills where you will be a war dog barking at the other dog. To be an unrepentant asshole does not mean to go around berating others rather to be assertive when the time calls for it. And it is one of the most important parts of being the good bad boy the world needs and women crave.
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-Charles Sledge
