A bad boy is cool, calm, and confident. Things don’t get too him. While most people run around like a chicken with its head cut off the bad boy is relaxed and in control. He isn’t led around by the latest trends, the latest news, or the latest fads. He is in control of his emotions and his mind. He is unfazed by the world around him. And when things get hot he knows what do whether in a violent situation or with a woman. Remember he is a man so he has both of these parts of his life covered.
A bad boy has an internal loci of control. Meaning that he gets his feeling and states from within. Now granted we all do. Even the person who is scared of every sound they ear, the fear technically comes from within but that’s not what I’m talking about. I mean people who are always reacting to others and the world around them have an external loci of control. Someone says they suck and they feel bad, a friend betrays them their sad all day, and so on and so forth. The bad boy has an internal loci of control, meaning that he is in control of himself and his emotions.
Loci Of Control
Because of this when someone betrays the bad boy or insults him he either deals with it in the way that it needs to be dealt with or shrugs/laughs in the guys face. For example if someone told me I was stupid/lame/a loser or whatever, it wouldn’t affect me in the least. Because I have an internal loci of control, I decide who and what I am not other people. Not my boss, not the president, not the majority, not my parents, not beautiful women, but me and me alone. I walk my own path alone, I’m happy to have others along but at the end of the day all I need is me.
I don’t let outside things affect me. This is something that took awhile to develop but once developed pays back one hundred fold. You simplify your life greatly when you call all the shots. I am unfazed by what others say and do. I am more concerned with myself and the path that I am walking that what others think, say, or do. This doesn’t mean I tolerate disrespect of course, simply that I choose what will get any of my attention or emotions.
A Rock In A Storm
Man has been described as a rock that can weather all storms. This is a good description of the bad boy. Outside events and influences do not faze him. Things don’t get to him. He keeps his cool and his positive attitude. You can’t get him down. If a beautiful women says he’s a piece of shit and should kill himself he’ll respond with laughter. One because he knows she wants him and two because he could care less what some broad thinks about him. He’s devoted to himself and the path that he has lain out for himself.
He walks his own way and does his own thing. He has a mission in life and that mission is fulfilling his potential and developing himself as man to the best of his ability. It isn’t about other people, it’s about him, and this is how it should be. A man needs to look out for himself first and foremost. And nothing should come before himself. You always come first in your own life. Doesn’t mean you can’t help others only that you put yourself first.
Summary
Stick to your path. Don’t let the world or others drag you from it. Have an internal loci of control. Walk through the world as if you have great power, because you do. Others may try to shame, guilt, manipulate, and brainwash you but you won’t let them as you follow your path and go your own way. You have your own mission and won’t be led off the path by anyone else. Not by family, friends, women, governments, or anything.
Be unfazed by the world the world is a crazy place as are the vast majority of people in it. Focus on yourself, that is the only thing you can control, and that is the only thing that matters. Be your own sanctuary. Be able to stand up against outside forces while keeping your inner surroundings free of the world and other peoples B.S., do this and you will be well on your way to becoming a good bad boy.
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