The Source Of Most Male’s Issues With Women

This is a chapter from my book Be A Man, Get The Girl: Testosterone & Success With Women. Enjoy.

Different people have different problems. Yet in all my time writing for men there is a single issue that gets way more attention then all the others. Sure pretty much all guys could be in a little better shape, make some more money, have a better mindset, and a variety of many other things. But the one thing that seems to consume the mind of the modern male is women. While there are things that are far far more important most males aren’t going to listen to what you have to say about them until they get their issues with women resolved. Likewise it usually takes a man having sex with the women that he wants to have sex with before he realizes it’s no big deal and women are never something that should be the focus of his life.

Yet nevertheless this is the issue that most males want help with. Why is this? Surely there are things that are more important money, your own well being, and above all else your masculinity. Yet the thing that males take notice of (and thereby conclude that all is not right) is when they are not having success with women like they want to (and some set the bar very low yet still do not get what they want). Even most fitness and money advice is sought after because males think it will ultimately lead them to women. Why is this and why do so many males have problems with something that should be so natural and easy?

Masculinity & Women

Most males have been divorced from their masculinity in a variety of ways. Feminism infecting their minds, soy infecting their body, and weakness infecting their soul. All of these things can be overcome of course but yet these are a few of the reasons that we are seeing so many males struggling in this area. Struggling in this area leads to overestimating the value of everything in this area, including women. Modern males worship women and it’s pathetic. They worship them for a variety of reasons number one being because they think if they just worship their “goddess” harder then she’ll reciprocate with affection. Not knowing that by worshiping her they’ll never get her.

Combine that with these males having no masculine role models or masculinity of their own to work from and it’s easy to see how this problem is created. A media pushing feminism, a diet pushing low testosterone, a single mother castrating her son’s spirit, and so on and so forth. Yet with all this males cannot completely deny their lust and desire for women entirely. Even the least masculine and low testosterone male will still have feelings for women and desire to have sex with them to some extent (or at least will be frustrated with his lack of relationship with women).

Cheap Imitation

So these males turn to whatever is offering them a cure. Some will turn to common dating advice and divorce themselves from their masculinity even more hurting their chances of ever solving their problems with women or living a fulfilling life even more. They think “If I just respected women more” or “If I just worshiped her more then she’d see”. Instead of adjusting for their error or even seeing their errors they instead double down on what got them where they are in the first place. It’d be like if eating a peanut made you swell up and choke thinking if you just ate twice the amount of peanuts you’d be better.

Then you have the males who go down the seduction/PUA route. Where they think “If I just learn these tactics” or if “If I just remember this script then I’ll have the success with women that I want” yet even when they do have a little success they feel unfulfilled and can’t figure out why. The reason why is because they put in herculean effort to earn a penny. They spent hours of time to bang some chick. Some go there whole lives like this ending up jokes and pathetic losers (the same place where they started from) sure they might have slept with some bar skanks and some other women. But is that really a legacy? Hell no, of course not. That’s pathetic.

The Solution

What these males fail to realize is the thing that is keeping them from success with women is the exact same thing that is keeping them from success with life. Women (and money) will never fulfill you. What these males need to do is embrace their masculinity. Work on becoming a man and getting their testosterone up then everything else will resolve itself. A masculine high testosterone man could never understand the PUA community. He would think “Why are they exerting so much effort for such little reward?”. So now that we know what the solution is how do we go about embracing it?

First off get your testosterone levels up. That is number one. Then start doing active things with other men. Get out and get moving. Don’t chase women, chase being the greatest man that you can be. Women are a minor sidepiece to a great life. Doesn’t matter if it’s a great wife and mother or tons of gorgeous women you sleep with. They’re not the focus. Chasing women and making them (or even worse one) the center of your life will never bring you fulfillment and is pathetic. Masculinity is what matters, masculinity is what will bring you fulfillment.

Summary

The modern males issues with women stems from his lack of masculinity plain and simple. Not because he doesn’t have enough routines or tricks, not because he doesn’t understand women, not because of anything but he is not masculine. Becoming masculine would solve his problems with women as well as show him all that there is to life and living. Women would stop taking up so much of his time and thought. They would be placed in their rightful place. As a nice aside, nothing more and nothing less. Lacking masculinity is the source of modern male’s issue with women along with just about every other societal ill and problem faced by males. Embrace your masculinity.

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-Charles Sledge