If you want something enough then you’ll find a way to get it, put another way when there is a will there is a way. Having the sex life you want with the women that you want is no different. However without the wanting or desire to do something nothing else is going to matter. We’ll use someone trying to lose weight as an example. Alright so let’s say we have Bobby who is 300 lbs of mostly fat. Bobby is depressed because of his weight but doesn’t want to do anything about it as he hasn’t build up any willpower. Then we have Bill who is a world renown personal trainer and next door neighbor to Bobby. One day walking by Bill decides that he can’t just sit by and let his friend Bobby rot away.
So he goes over to Bobby and starts to talk about losing weight. Bill tells him all of the benefits of weight loss including being able to attract women easier. Bobby nods his head and says that’d be cool. So Bill goes and draws up an entire three month long workout plan combined with a diet plan that’ll get Bobby shedding fat and gaining muscle like crazy. Bobby is literally given an entire program that would have cost thousands of dollars for Bill to write up for someone else for free. However Bobby after an initial burst of excitement decides that it’s just too much and goes back to watching TV and eating chips.
Without Desire, All Is For Naught
Bobby simply didn’t have the desire to go out and lose weight. Even when he was literally given the keys to the kingdom and would have had the results he wanted ten times faster than anyone else in his situation he still didn’t want it enough to get up and get after it. It didn’t matter how easy it would be for him or how simple it was made for him he simply didn’t want it bad enough. The desire the want wasn’t strong enough so Bill wasted his time trying to help Bobby. You can’t help someone that has no desire to be helped no matter how easy you make it for them. It could have taken Bills decades to acquire his knowledge that Bobby could gain from but it doesn’t matter without desire.
No on the other hand let’s say we have Ricky who is also 300 lbs and looking to change it. Ricky has no trainer all, is poor, and everyone around him is fat. He talked about going on a diet with his friends and family and they all laughed at him and made fun of him. “What’s the point? It’s genetics” said one friend. “You’re fine just the way you are Ricky” said his mother. “Why you would want to bother with that nonsense?” asked his father. Yet Ricky was determined to do so. He was able to get some books from the library on working out and devoured them.
Sure they may have been from the 60’s (might be an advantage in this case) but Ricky didn’t care he was gaining information. He began cutting back his portion sizes and began training with a rusty old barbell that he got off a guy who just wanted it off his property. Ricky began doing all sorts of movements in the backyard after school with the barbell. At first he could barely manage deadlifts but over time his strength grew. He also began running. A year later Ricky has lost one hundred lbs and was well on his way to losing more. The thing that separated Ricky and Bobby was that Ricky had desire and Bobby did not.
Desire Is Key
The most rudimentary of outlines will get you where you want to go if the desire is strong enough. Men with no direction who were born penniless and never had the luxury of a library have risen to great heights because of the desire contained within them. Likewise those that had access to all the knowledge in the world have squandered it and ended up with nothing. Desire is the fundamental and most important aspect. Not the strategies, tactic, principles, or anything of that nature like we often think. But rather the desire that gives life to all of those things.
When you have a strong natural desire for something things begin to fall in place for you to acquire that thing that you want. Let’s use game as an example. You could be given the most rudimentary of knowledge and if you wanted it bad enough you’d be out getting laid left and right or failing until you did. If you read book after book but don’t apply it then it’s probably because you don’t want it bad enough. And most guys are thinking at this point “Not want sex with women come on Sledge that’s crazy”. But it really isn’t. Not with the way the modern males hormones are screwed up. You could be ripped and big but have messed up hormones and desire. Especially if you watch porn and do other things that’ll mess you up.
Low testosterone combined with porn use keeps more males from getting laid that bad game ever has or ever will. Bad game can be overcome with desire however even the best game is sterile without that desire behind it. I’d be willing to bet money that if you aren’t getting the sex life that you want with the women that you want it’s because your desire is screwed up not because you have bad game or are ugly or anything else that you might attribute it too. It’s because of desire plain and simple. To remedy this you have to get rid of things that block your desire. Namely low testosterone levels and watching porn.
Summary
When your desire comes everything else falls into place. Like a bolt of lightning striking something. A man with enough desire cannot and will not be held back. Testosterone along with a couple other factors are what drives your desire for women (as well as achievement for a large part). Getting these things in order will do wonders. You have the car built now you need the gas in the engine. Getting even nicer tires while something to do down the road isn’t going to mean jack if you don’t have gas in the tank. It’s the same with desire and having the right mindset as well as game. Without desire nothing else is going to matter.
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-Charles Sledge
