Many males think that there is some magic line out there that will miraculously open the legs of women and make them jump on whatever male utters it. However this is far from the reality. There are many things that go into having a woman be attracted to you and you’re “line” isn’t one of them. However most males feel at a loss without having some sort of script or something to say when they go up to a woman. They don’t have enough confidence in themselves to simply go without anything planned and wing it. They need some sort of line or fall back plan in case they don’t know what to say.
While I understand that at first it can be nice to have some words to say so you don’t have to think. Eventually you have to get out of this mindset and get comfortable with yourself, trust in yourself, and get comfortable talking to women. Believe it or not but most women want to be talked to, especially from an attractive man who has the balls to just come right up to them and talk to them instead of using weak excuses like a woman. Even if they do test you a little just to make sure you really are that ballsy.
The “Opener” Doesn’t Matter
Not a big fan of using pickup lingo but in this case I’ll use it for the sake of clarity. A big deal is made out of the “opener” many guys think that if they just get the opener right (opener meaning the first words that they say to a woman) then it’s going to be smooth sailing from then on out. The truth is that it doesn’t quite work that way and as a matter of fact your opener doesn’t really matter at all in the grand scheme of things. You could walk up to a woman and speak gibberish and if you were an attractive masculine man still take her home.
The opener doesn’t matter. Literally doesn’t matter at all. What matters is that you had the guys to actually go up and approach her like a man. That’s what matters. Not the words that you said but the action that you took. Now granted if you approach a woman with your head down, thinking your bothering her, expecting her to reject you, and then whispered some words that’s not going to work. But it has nothing to do with the words you said. It has to do with the kind of man you are and the actions you take.
The Only Pickup Line You’ll Ever Need
Alright now with that being said I know that a good majority of guys reading this are still going to want to have something to say to a woman that they find attractive when they approach her. First off keep the principles I talked about above in mind. Namely that your opener doesn’t matter and that being an attractive masculine man who takes action is going to matter more than anything else. But the actual words that you say are not going to matter in the grand scheme of things, or at all really.
So here’s a “line” that you can use until you realize the words you say to open don’t matter “Hi, my name is X”. X being your name. Please don’t go up to a woman and literally say “Hey, my name is X”. That’s all you need. Do is with making eye contact and smiling. Something you should be doing to all attractive women you see anyways. Eventually you won’t even think about it and all you’ll concern yourself with is taking the action of approaching a woman and that’s what matters. The action you take not the words that you say.
Above All Else
Above all else remember to be an attractive masculine man who has a lot more than just picking up chicks going on in his life. That’s going to make a much bigger difference then any “line” that you can come up with, which ultimately don’t matter anyways. So stop thinking about whether this line or that line is better than the other, the “line” shouldn’t consume any of your thoughts. Just take action and go for it. That’s what matters.
The amount of action that you take is something that you control and something that determines how much success you have in any area of your life. The more action you take the more success you have. Combine constantly taking action with a constant influx of knowledge and you have the recipe for amazing growth. Just keep taking action and keep learning. That’s the path and the key to success.
Summary
So don’t concern yourself with the opener, it doesn’t matter. What matters is being a strong man who takes action, that’s what attracts women to you. Not some line or words that you say. And if you must have something to say here is the greatest pickup there is “Hi, my name is X”. X being your name of course. That’s all you’ll need. Just focus on taking action and always going for it. You’ll get the results that you want.
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-Charles Sledge
