This is a weekly column by Stefan Simonovic. Stefan runs multiple dating sites and writes about dating for men. In this article Stefan talks about why being a nice guy has never attracted women and never will. This is an important topic that many men still don’t get. Enjoy.
There’s no need to say it out loud because we already know what’s been bothering you - you did your best to impress her by holding the car doors for her and you told her all about your unconditional love for puppies because you’ve seen it’s a hit among celebrities on Snapchat who don’t cease to bombard us with cute videos of their pets. So, you stepped in bravely like any true gentleman would do, suppressing the urge to puke your guts out while you were telling her all about your dog who goes by the name of Princess.
Anyways, everything seemed to be going according to plan. Yay.
Now, hold it right there because we know the truth - it didn’t exactly work out. We bet you suddenly found yourself in a semi-desperate situation - which was kind of funny to watch actually - because you probably ended up squeezing a smartphone anxiously while waiting for a desired call/text/snap to arrive. “What went wrong?” became a philosophical question to be discussed with your mates over a beer…but what if we told you it can be deftly avoided by reading the following paragraphs? Keep in mind that the latter is better, especially if you’re regular at your AA meetings.
Bad Boy Myth or Back to the Basics
She knows he’s gonna make her cry in the end, and you’re also aware that pulling out the macho crap isn’t exactly your cup of tea. Still, you have to be aware this myth is not the myth at all. Namely, female’s psychology extends beyond the limits of the known, meaning that she won’t be able to give you an exact explanation as to why her panties are literally falling off whilst the you-know-which bodily fluids are starting to flow the moment she spots a bad boy in the room. Still, we’ve tried to think of some of the possible reasons for such a strong physical response and these just some of the possible explanations:
- Perhaps she watched 9 ½ weeks when she was just a vulnerable teenage girl whose hormones were going wild, which helped her forget all about her love for Disney.
- She’s an avid fan of basically anything that comes from the vampire universe because we all know that women are - figuratively speaking, of course - bloodsuckers in disguise and therefore mostly bound to fall for someone who’s similar to them.
- Maybe it was 50 Shades of Grey that made her a masochistic monster? Who knows…
Bad Boy has a unique style - Nice guys are just average
She loves everything about him - from his easygoing persona balancing on the brink of being indifferent about everything, to the way he lives for the moment. And even though she secretly craves to tame him in the near future and consequently whip him up into a solid husband material, she’ll make sure to enjoy every bit of the suspense there is. It makes a perfect sense… right?
He’s a Sexy MF - Nice guys are just cute
If you’re graced by the patience of Job and still firmly believe that being nice will take you far in the long run then it’s very likely that you’ll get laid…eventually. You see, just like in the late Prince’s song, the bad boy radiates some seriously hot vibes that are practically irresistible even for the more experienced among the ladies. We’re sorry to bring this up but a nice guy really doesn’t stand a chance when it comes to one-night flings and arranging all other sorts of sexcapades.
Bad boy pretending to be a nice guy - a huge no-no
Don’t even try it because she will see through it somehow since females are known for having a sixth sense. This means that if their gut tells them that something’s wrong they won’t stop until they’ve found out what it is exactly because they don’t enjoy being played around with - well, at least not to an extent greater than she allowed you in the first place. On the other hand, this is the way to avoid the risk of being dumped by receiving a slap in your face because she appreciates the honesty - mostly.
In conclusion
You should bear in mind that tactics of any kind are not to be overly trusted in the dating game as we all dwell in a distorted universe where a noble maiden is desperately waiting for Jon Snow to grow a pair of balls. True story, bro!
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-Charles Sledge
