Ever been at a bar and heard one of you’re buddies say about the women in the place “They’re all with guys” or something to that extent. The exact phrasing isn’t what matters (it never is) the point is that men often disqualify themselves for a variety of reasons, the majority of which do not have any bearing on reality. Here I want to address one of the most popular ones. Namely if a girl is with a guy at a bar/club/wherever then they are off limits are either don’t want to be talked to or something to that extent. When in reality nothing could be further from the truth.
Why It Doesn’t Matter
Let’s start with the basics. Many guys think that when a woman is out with a guy that it is most likely their boyfriend (as if that would matter to the woman anyways) and therefore they shouldn’t go talk to them. This is generally false. Women sometimes go out with their boyfriends but what you are most likely seeing at a bar is a woman out with her beta orbiters looking for a real man to satisfy her. While the beta orbiter’s keep the free drinks and compliments coming. These men are generally just emotional tampons that the woman uses for validation, while real men are what get her rocks off.
In addition to if a woman finds a man who she is more attracted to than the man she is with, the man she is with ceases to matter. This is true when the other man is her boyfriend or husband how much more true is it when it’s just some dude who hopes lavishing her with drinks and attention will get him in her pants? I remember in college many girls who boyfriends went to another school who were dying for me to have sex with them because they wanted me one hundred times more than their boyfriends. Many women wouldn’t even bring up if they had a boyfriend/husband and when one of their friends did they were given the eyes of death and chastisement from the woman who I was talking with. So either way it doesn’t matter. If you want a woman that is what matters. Now I would advise staying away from married and taken women obviously but what I’m saying is if you see a girl and you want her go for it. If it turns out she’s married or taken then find another but don’t just assume.
An Excuse
This of course could have another meaning depending on the guy who says it. This could also mean “I’m too scared to approach women so I’m going to rationalize it by saying that they’re all with guys”. An excuse is an excuse and bitching out is bitching out, you can dress it up any way you choose it’s still the same. The worst excuses are those who seem to have some rationality to them (doesn’t matter their still excuses). Excuses are cancerous to your manhood. There are few things that will destroy it more.
Excuses are what the weak use to justify sucking. Even if an excuse sounds right in your head realize it’s still an excuse and is still poison. Imagine if they put rat poison in a colorful box with a cartoon rat on the front and the USDA said it was part of a balanced meal. It looks right and the USDA would never lie right? After all they are part of the government which always has our best interest at heart. Poison is poison no matter how palatable or pretty it looks or sounds.
Limiting Thoughts
Limiting thoughts are a pernicious sickness. Remember your mindset is the most important facet of your life. Your mind being poisoned is like a well being poisoned during a siege. With the water gone all is lost. With your mind poisoned all is lost. Your mind is the beginning and the end of where you will end up in life. Your were given this gift and now it is your duty and responsibility to make the very most out of it.
You must declare war on any weak and limiting thoughts. Such as I can’t approach a woman because their is a man out with her. You like a woman you approach her that’s that. No excuses, no buts, nothing. Put in caveman terms you want, you do. Treat you limiting thoughts like barbarians treated those they conquered. No mercy, no quarter.
Now what are you waiting for? She’s waiting…
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-Charles Sledge
